Let Them- Adult Friendships

This powerful message explores the essential foundation of adult friendships through a biblical lens, challenging us to rethink how we build and maintain meaningful relationships. Drawing from Psalm 133 and the wisdom of Solomon, we discover that God's design for community brings both blessing and refreshment to our lives. The message introduces four critical pillars of adult friendship: proximity, common ground, energy, and intentionality. We're reminded that after the 'great scattering' of our school years, friendships no longer happen automatically—we must show up, invest time, and be deliberate about building community. The example of Jesus calling both Simon the Zealot and Matthew the tax collector to the same discipleship group demonstrates how Christ can be the unifying center that bridges even the deepest divides. When Jesus becomes our common ground, we can fellowship with people across political, social, and economic boundaries. The message challenges us to evaluate which relationships need our energy and investment, and which we need to release with grace. Not every friendship is meant to last forever, and that's okay. The wisdom here isn't about collecting countless acquaintances but about recognizing the different seasons and purposes of relationships. Ultimately, we're called to trust the Holy Spirit's leadership in guiding us toward the friendships that will sharpen us, encourage us, and help us become more like Christ.

How does the concept of 'the great scattering' after high school or college resonate with your own experience of forming and maintaining friendships in adulthood?

Pastor Delmer mentioned that Jesus had different levels of proximity with people, from crowds to the inner three disciples. How does this biblical example challenge or affirm your current approach to relationships and friendships?

What does it mean practically to 'let them' when friendships fade or people drift away, while still being a faithful friend who loves at all times as Proverbs 17:17 describes?

How can centering our relationships around Jesus help us bridge divides with people who have vastly different political views, backgrounds, or lifestyles, as Jesus did with Simon the Zealot and Matthew the tax collector?

The sermon suggests that small-minded thinking keeps churches and communities small. In what ways might you need to broaden your circle of common ground while maintaining your core beliefs?

Pastor Delmer states that friendship is not magic but an investment that takes time, suggesting we give it a year. How does this challenge our culture's expectation for instant connection and immediate results?

What is the difference between being friendly to everyone and having deep friendships that require intentional energy and investment? How do you discern which relationships to feed and which to let go?